Hmm... I actually tried crossposting this at the Modest Dress community, and it was deemed rather off-topic by a moderator, but I didn't try an LJ cut; that probably would have helped.
Getting back to your questions/answers:
I'd be curious to know your support for premarital sex in a Jewish context. Is it mostly the silence on the subject? I can understand that, on its own, as going either way (permissive or prohibitive).
I think you're right too on the pants issue.
As far as labels go, Conservative or Open Orthodox might be the best labels for me. Conservative is probably far more accurate though for the meantime. I know that all of my values have fitted in somewhere in the history of Conservative Judaism, but I am also interested in Open Orthodoxy because it's so young and still growing. I am curious to see what further developments we may see in Open Orthodoxy in terms of Egalitarianism, electricity on Shabbat, eating in non-Kosher restaurants, and such.
There's the idea that Conservative clergy and Conservative lay people really are not on the same page theologically or Halakhically, and I wonder to what extent this will be a truth in Open Orthodoxy as it evolves. (Crudely: will Conservative Rabbis preach to Reform Jews and Open Orthodox Rabbis to Orthodox Jews?)
As I get closer to applying to Rabbinical Schools, I continue to wonder if there's a community out there of more Jews who think the way that I do, and, if not, should and how could I aim to build one?